willie-pete Posted November 26, 2018 Share Posted November 26, 2018 1 hour ago, SC Tiger said: So basically you were a glorified microwave operator? Yep, microwave, gamma wave, alpha wave, beta wave, neutron wave, X-ray wave. I got 'em all covered. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SC Tiger Posted November 26, 2018 Share Posted November 26, 2018 12 minutes ago, willie-pete said: Yep, microwave, gamma wave, alpha wave, beta wave, neutron wave, X-ray wave. I got 'em all covered. Well I'd ask you to microwave some popcorn for me then, but I kinda like my house un-demolished....... 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jammersix Posted November 26, 2018 Share Posted November 26, 2018 The corporation that runs my doctor's office (Swedish) has very set, clear rules about what their employees can and can't do or say with patients. I know it applies outside the office. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Borg warner Posted November 26, 2018 Share Posted November 26, 2018 (edited) 23 hours ago, jame said: I'll make this as brief as possible in hopes that it will simplify my question. In a nutshell, over the last 2 1/2 years, I was hired and recently promoted to the top spot. A woman that's been a friend of mine over the last ten years got me the job in the first place. Fast forward to today, and we're under new management, and they and my friend do NOT get along, so she was released. Sadly, I had to help her pack her stuff and usher her to her car in the parking lot last Wednesday. Now today, through a series of text messages from my superior, I have a feeling that they will ask me to dissolve this friendship, and stop all communications with her, regardless of our previous 10 year relationship. I'm a guy that will step in line and get to work, but this seems to bend me a little sideways. (As a side note, this industry is predominantly women. The cattiness is unreal) I'm 59, towards the tail end of my career. My friend, obviously, is a pretty good resource. She got me this job, after all. I'd love to hear your takes, opinions, and suggestions. If you want to remain friends with this person on your own time and don't communicate with her while you're at work, how are they going to know that you're continuing the friendship unless you tell them? Your private business is your private business and none of their concern. If they ask you to dissolve this friendship, and stop all communications with her you can agree to do that but as far as you're concerned, that's only while you're on the job and you aren't obligated to tell them that. Edited November 26, 2018 by Borg warner Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
steve4102 Posted November 26, 2018 Share Posted November 26, 2018 43 minutes ago, Jammersix said: The corporation that runs my doctor's office (Swedish) has very set, clear rules about what their employees can and can't do or say with patients. I know it applies outside the office. ...and this applies to the OP's concerns about being told he cannot associate wit a former employee, How? How does, patient confidentiality and patients rights apply here? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jammersix Posted November 26, 2018 Share Posted November 26, 2018 lol 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dric902 Posted November 26, 2018 Share Posted November 26, 2018 20 minutes ago, Jammersix said: lol Don’t try and light a gas stove without power . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jammersix Posted November 26, 2018 Share Posted November 26, 2018 A rolling stone will never sit on another hot stove. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MtnBiker Posted November 26, 2018 Share Posted November 26, 2018 22 hours ago, ASH said: your time is your time, theirs is theirs , BUT saying that walk a thin line because they can make up anything they want to dump you as well. If you stay friends on a personal basis, it's not their concern. However if she was fired for cause, you may put your reputation at risk as well. I live in Georgia. It's a "right to work" state. I used to joke with my ex-boss that they would probably fire me if I passed gas in an elevator if the wrong person was on-board at the time. He didn't laugh. He'd just blink. It made me think that may be true. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jammersix Posted November 27, 2018 Share Posted November 27, 2018 In an at will state, of course they can fire either one of them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TX OMFS Posted November 27, 2018 Share Posted November 27, 2018 How will they know if you stay in contact with her anyways?This. Keep it off social media and I can't see a problem. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Administrators Rabbi Posted November 27, 2018 Administrators Share Posted November 27, 2018 If she is really a friend and you really want to keep your job and avoid trouble, then she will understand and comply with taking your friendship *underground* 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jame Posted November 27, 2018 Author Share Posted November 27, 2018 Just to clarify, I have no contact with my friend during working hours, and no communication is taking place on company owned devices. As well, we stay cordial on social media, but not a word is typed or any post referred to contains anything about the company. Did I say that I'm the only guy working with only women? Does this surprise anyone? It's funny, when you get them alone to discuss such matters, it doesn't surprise any of them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
minderasr Posted November 27, 2018 Share Posted November 27, 2018 Can an employer control who you're friends with? Ask Officer Shamika Shawnyette Lawrence. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bohica793 Posted November 27, 2018 Share Posted November 27, 2018 You are already toast (I speak from experience). The request is the first step towards your exit under less than friendly terms. My advise is polish and distribute your resume and begin finding a new opportunity in earnest. At age 59, it is very problematic but it will be better to get out on your own than to be standing with your hat and your ass and both have a hole in them. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Walt Longmire Posted November 28, 2018 Share Posted November 28, 2018 8 hours ago, minderasr said: Can an employer control who you're friends with? Ask Officer Shamika Shawnyette Lawrence. She is now free to galivant with whomever she wishes. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
windowasher Posted November 28, 2018 Share Posted November 28, 2018 Are/were either of you subject to non-competes or confidentiality agreements? They can claim your continued relationship puts their "intellectual property" or "proprietary processes" in Jeopardy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Walt Longmire Posted November 28, 2018 Share Posted November 28, 2018 3 hours ago, windowasher said: Are/were either of you subject to non-competes or confidentiality agreements? They can claim your continued relationship puts their "intellectual property" or "proprietary processes" in Jeopardy Your brain is their 'intellectual property.' At least that's what the corporate bosses think. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wyzz Kydd Posted November 29, 2018 Share Posted November 29, 2018 No. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PNWguy Posted November 29, 2018 Share Posted November 29, 2018 I learned on GT that an employer can do anything they want to you and you better just be thankful. If you don't like it, feel free to quit and start your own business; as long as it's not a hot dog cart... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jammersix Posted November 29, 2018 Share Posted November 29, 2018 I never cared if you were thankful. Washington is an at-will state. It means just what it says. It means I can let you go for cause or without any cause. That means I can let you go if you're friends with folks I don't like, if I think you're friends with folks I don't like or if I think it will help my headache. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Huaco Kid Posted November 29, 2018 Share Posted November 29, 2018 I'm pretty much unemployable, except that people have learned that I can make them a lot of money. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jammersix Posted November 29, 2018 Share Posted November 29, 2018 49 minutes ago, Huaco Kid said: I'm pretty much unemployable, except that people have learned that I can make them a lot of money. I knew a J-man carpenter who would say "I'll make you money" when he was interviewed. He always got hired. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Walt Longmire Posted November 29, 2018 Share Posted November 29, 2018 I fired plenty of guys from logging jobs. It was the epitome of being politically correct. It was an art to be proud of. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jame Posted November 29, 2018 Author Share Posted November 29, 2018 On 11/27/2018 at 4:49 PM, bohica793 said: You are already toast (I speak from experience). The request is the first step towards your exit under less than friendly terms. My advise is polish and distribute your resume and begin finding a new opportunity in earnest. At age 59, it is very problematic but it will be better to get out on your own than to be standing with your hat and your ass and both have a hole in them. And that, my friend is the plan that's in place at the moment. The fact that I already have such a question is a demonstration of the distrust I already have for them, and they, most likely, me. And while you are correct that at 59, re-employment is problematic, they already shared with me that they're very sensitive to age discrimination lawsuits, choosing rather to settle than engage. I'm not the lawsuit type, but since they're already a little sketchy anyway, I'll certainly take advantage of that fear as much as much as necessary as I search for another position elsewhere. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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