DWARREN123 Posted March 4, 2021 Share Posted March 4, 2021 I feel for you. When my MOM passed it got to me more than any other person passing. My MOM, like most mothers, was a great person. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Borg warner Posted March 4, 2021 Share Posted March 4, 2021 (edited) My mom died in 2010, my dad in 2011. My mom had arthritis really bad and had a stroke and struggled with a lot of health problems for the last years of her life and was in a lot of pain but it never killed her spirit and she was always upbeat and happy to have her family around her and she hand many life-long friends who she was in touch with. The fact that her suffering was over made it easier for all of us and my dad had time to adjust to it and accept it before he died a year later. Acceptance is the hardest part and it takes time. But you have to grieve until it runs it's course. I still miss them both but when I think back on my life I'm so grateful that I had them both and that we were never a dysfunctional family and that gave me a solid foundation that helped me though any difficulty that I or my brothers or their families ever had to go through. They both would be so proud to see their two great-grandchildren today. Edited March 4, 2021 by Borg warner 3 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gamboolman Posted March 4, 2021 Share Posted March 4, 2021 Sorry for your loss sir. Prayers of comfort offered up for you and your family. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Huski92 Posted March 4, 2021 Share Posted March 4, 2021 Sorry for your loss. It’s never easy. I lost my mom 5 years ago. Still get the urge to call her. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jfost11 Posted March 4, 2021 Share Posted March 4, 2021 Sorry for your loss. Thoughts and prayers to you and yours. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NPTim Posted March 4, 2021 Author Share Posted March 4, 2021 My older sister texted me. Turns out she is the executrix of mom’s will. She sent me the photo of the will. I was disinherited, purposely by my mother. She seems to have hated me without my knowing it. My sisters always thought I was her favorite, and I told them this wasn’t the case. My inheritance is proving them wrong. It makes me sound mercenary, but it’s about being cast aside. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deputy tom Posted March 4, 2021 Share Posted March 4, 2021 1 hour ago, NPTim said: My older sister texted me. Turns out she is the executrix of mom’s will. She sent me the photo of the will. I was disinherited, purposely by my mother. She seems to have hated me without my knowing it. My sisters always thought I was her favorite, and I told them this wasn’t the case. My inheritance is proving them wrong. It makes me sound mercenary, but it’s about being cast aside. I'm sorry to hear this, Tim. Prayers sent. tom. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dric902 Posted March 4, 2021 Share Posted March 4, 2021 1 hour ago, NPTim said: My older sister texted me. Turns out she is the executrix of mom’s will. She sent me the photo of the will. I was disinherited, purposely by my mother. She seems to have hated me without my knowing it. My sisters always thought I was her favorite, and I told them this wasn’t the case. My inheritance is proving them wrong. It makes me sound mercenary, but it’s about being cast aside. Thanks for sharing that, it wasn’t needed. Grieve your Mom, none of that is important. . 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TXUSMC Posted March 5, 2021 Share Posted March 5, 2021 Remember to celebrate her life. She gave you the core values and unconditional love that helped form the life you have lived. By all means, mourn her passing, but take time to reflect on her influence on you, and how you can best emulate her by paying it forward yourself. My siblings and I make a point of sharing remembrances on our parents’ (both deceased) birthdays and their wedding anniversary. Those memories bring the smiles which have replaced the tears. Sincere condolences to you, OP. 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Duluth Posted March 5, 2021 Share Posted March 5, 2021 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Huaco Kid Posted March 5, 2021 Share Posted March 5, 2021 I think it's not uncommon for parents to short-change some of their stronger, more capable, children ( "Oh, he's always done well, he'll be just fine."), and pamper the ones that will struggle. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paul53 Posted March 5, 2021 Share Posted March 5, 2021 Sorry for your loss, Tim. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
railfancwb Posted March 5, 2021 Share Posted March 5, 2021 8 minutes ago, Paul53 said: Sorry for your loss, Tim. Yes, for the loss of your mother. And the unexplained disinheriting. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
norton Posted March 5, 2021 Share Posted March 5, 2021 Sorry to hear you lost your Mom. Hang in there. It will get better. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NPTim Posted March 5, 2021 Author Share Posted March 5, 2021 Thank y’all so much, it has helped. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dynactus Posted March 5, 2021 Share Posted March 5, 2021 Terribly sorry to read this. My sincere condolences. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lazy R Posted March 5, 2021 Share Posted March 5, 2021 Sorry man. Peace be with you. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pfigment Posted March 5, 2021 Share Posted March 5, 2021 My condolences to you and your family sir... 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MO Fugga Posted March 6, 2021 Share Posted March 6, 2021 (edited) On 3/3/2021 at 10:44 PM, NPTim said: Damn dude, thanks. Thank you all. Now's the time to tell your best stories. At least to us derelicts. Lost mine in 05, opening up a little helps. Edited March 6, 2021 by MO Fugga 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
holyjohnson Posted March 6, 2021 Share Posted March 6, 2021 On 3/4/2021 at 3:03 PM, NPTim said: It makes me sound mercenary, but it’s about being cast aside. not really Tim, the Emotions are raw and its understandable to feel hurt. Focus on the good stuff as best you can. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NPTim Posted March 6, 2021 Author Share Posted March 6, 2021 37 minutes ago, MO Fugga said: Now's the time to tell your best stories. At least to us derelicts. Lost mine in 05, opening up a little helps. My cousins called and asked me what my best memories of mom was, and it was a memory of cooking with my great aunt. 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NPTim Posted March 6, 2021 Author Share Posted March 6, 2021 29 minutes ago, holyjohnson said: not really Tim, the Emotions are raw and its understandable to feel hurt. Focus on the good stuff as best you can. That was the advice she gave me when my step-cousin died. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Walt Longmire Posted March 6, 2021 Share Posted March 6, 2021 Sorry for your loss Tim. Mothers are certainly something special. I held my mom in my arms as she passed at the young age of 68, in 1998. Still miss her dearly. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NPTim Posted March 9, 2021 Author Share Posted March 9, 2021 (edited) To get an idea about my sisters and their character, watch Lady and the Tramp and the Siamese cats. They are exactly the Siamese cats. Unfortunately that makes me Lady, FML, but accurate. Mom would be the the bird in the cage. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rlQYqQs0R3w I found out that they had a “celebration of life”, didn’t tell me about it. They started spreading lies about me. This also makes me like like a scumbag for not being there. We agreed to meet this summer to spread mom’s ashes, they could have easily postponed this until we meet this summer. They announced that they were were the ones putting it on. They told my cousins they told me about it, they didn’t. Edited March 9, 2021 by NPTim 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deputy tom Posted March 9, 2021 Share Posted March 9, 2021 46 minutes ago, NPTim said: To get an idea about my sisters and their character, watch Lady and the Tramp and the Siamese cats. They are exactly the Siamese cats. Unfortunately that makes me Lady, FML, but accurate. Mom would be the the bird in the cage. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rlQYqQs0R3w I found out that they had a “celebration of life”, didn’t tell me about it. They started spreading lies about me. This also makes me like like a scumbag for not being there. We agreed to meet this summer to spread mom’s ashes, they could have easily postponed this until we meet this summer. They announced that they were were the ones putting it on. They told my cousins they told me about it, they didn’t. Don't worry Tim, we know you are a stand up guy. We have your back. tom. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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