NPTim Posted March 3, 2021 Share Posted March 3, 2021 Mom passed away today from what she liked to call, “the old folks friend”, aka pneumonia. She wasn’t alone, my sister was with her. I’m not handling it well. When I’m thinking or talking about mom dying, I break into tears. I don’t have much experience with relatives dying. My dad dying didn’t effect me like this. Granted I was closer to my mother than my father. I predicted, years ago that I wouldn’t take mom’s dying well, owing to how close we were. I have a lot of tears in my future, not used to not being in control of my emotions. 1 14 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
janice6 Posted March 3, 2021 Share Posted March 3, 2021 My heartfelt sympathy I offer you. Losing a Mother is a terrible thing. I lost mine when I was 12 years old and I'm here to tell you it doesn't get any easier with time. Very often in my life I have found myself wondering why........... You just accept it knowing that if there is a life after death, that you may have the privilege of seeing her again. God Bless! 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
minervadoe Posted March 3, 2021 Share Posted March 3, 2021 I'm sorrowed by your loss. Don't rush the healing, it takes time. 6 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sparks Posted March 3, 2021 Share Posted March 3, 2021 Sorry to hear that. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
crockett Posted March 3, 2021 Share Posted March 3, 2021 (edited) 30 minutes ago, NPTim said: Mom passed away today from what she liked to call, “the old folks friend”, aka pneumonia. She wasn’t alone, my sister was with her. I’m not handling it well. When I’m thinking or talking about mom dying, I break into tears. I don’t have much experience with relatives dying. My dad dying didn’t effect me like this. Granted I was closer to my mother than my father. I predicted, years ago that I wouldn’t take mom’s dying well, owing to how close we were. I have a lot of tears in my future, not used to not being in control of my emotions. I'm really sorry for your loss. You are not alone. My best friend's sister died last night at age 62. At least she didn't have to suffer long. While you may have tears in your future, you do have a future. Make it count! I bet your mom would want you to be on a happy path down the road. Needles to say, if you feel like DMing, I'm just a click away. I'm sure the same accounts for several other fine folks on this forum. Edited March 3, 2021 by crockett 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deputy tom Posted March 3, 2021 Share Posted March 3, 2021 Tim, I am very sorry to hear this. I send prayers and good thoughts. I've gone thru this and it isn't pleasant. Keep the faith. tom. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dric902 Posted March 3, 2021 Share Posted March 3, 2021 (edited) Don’t try to control them, let them go. She was your mother. we lost mine in ‘14, and at 93 it wasn’t a surprise, but that doesn’t change that you lost your Mom. im sorry for what your feeling, I’ve known it. She was worth the grief. may forever feel like home to her. But you let it all go for your Mom, she deserves that. prayers for all you and yours . Edited March 3, 2021 by Dric902 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pipedreams Posted March 3, 2021 Share Posted March 3, 2021 It never gets easier, but time will help the healing. 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Batesmotel Posted March 3, 2021 Share Posted March 3, 2021 Sorry for your loss also. That is a hard thing to go through. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Swampfox762 Posted March 3, 2021 Share Posted March 3, 2021 So, so Sorry Tim. It's hard my friend. God Bless you, I'll keep you in my prayers. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gwalchmai Posted March 3, 2021 Share Posted March 3, 2021 I'm very sorry, Tim. I lost my Mom in December of 2019 after a long illness. It's never something you "get over" I think, but you come to grips with it over time. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zonny Posted March 3, 2021 Share Posted March 3, 2021 I’m very sorry for the loss of your precious mother. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aomagrat Posted March 3, 2021 Share Posted March 3, 2021 May her memory be eternal. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
railfancwb Posted March 3, 2021 Share Posted March 3, 2021 1 hour ago, pipedreams said: It never gets easier, but time will help the healing. True. You get used to the loss, not over it. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MO Fugga Posted March 3, 2021 Share Posted March 3, 2021 Condolences, Tim. We're praying for you buddy. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tadbart Posted March 3, 2021 Share Posted March 3, 2021 I am so sorry for your loss, man. If you need to talk, I'm around. With your new number saved. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Administrators Eric Posted March 4, 2021 Administrators Share Posted March 4, 2021 My condolences. Nothing prepares you for a loss like this. I hope you and your family get through it alright. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Al Czervik Posted March 4, 2021 Share Posted March 4, 2021 My sincere condolences, Tim. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Silentpoet Posted March 4, 2021 Share Posted March 4, 2021 I’m so sorry for your loss,. Prayers. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gunboat1 Posted March 4, 2021 Share Posted March 4, 2021 Very sorry to hear this, friend. I'll pray for both of you. Losing a parent, especially your mother, is a terrible hit. Don't be afraid to grieve. Best wishes to you and your family. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
holyjohnson Posted March 4, 2021 Share Posted March 4, 2021 Prayers to you and your Family Tim. there's no way to Prepare for that kind of Loss, Sincerely Sorry Brother. there isn't a thing wrong with letting the Emotions out. God Bless. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Redhookbklyn Posted March 4, 2021 Share Posted March 4, 2021 My sincere condolences to you and your family. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valmet Posted March 4, 2021 Share Posted March 4, 2021 Sad news indeed. I’m very sorry for your loss- I can’t begin to imagine how difficult it must be. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TBO Posted March 4, 2021 Share Posted March 4, 2021 Sorry for your loss Tim. Prayers for you and your family.Despite all the training and education, and practical experience you have in helping others with the grieving process... you are neither immune to it or granted a shield from its full effects.Please allow yourself to be human. Know that you have people who respect you and care about you.One minute at a time, one day at a time, and back slides are to be expected.As humans, at times like this, we only focus on "what we didn't do", no reflection on what we did.My hope is that eventually, like my experience, you will grow to both see and appreciate the things you did for your mother.In the short term and near future, please lean on friends. This is not a burden, but what friends are for.Respectfully Sent from my Jackboot using Copatalk 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NPTim Posted March 4, 2021 Author Share Posted March 4, 2021 (edited) Damn dude, thanks. Thank you all. Edited March 4, 2021 by NPTim 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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