im in nc and went thru something similar 2 years ago , the difference was we are a farm family and when my dad died in 95 i built a house closer to mom because i knew
if mom died before me i was gonna move in there and my other house was gifted to my oldest . my mom was 89 when she passed but our home is about 400 feet from hers . she wanted us closer not to be by herself . so in 2016 she developed altzheimers , i took her meds down every night because she would mix it up , now the differences
what made it easier for me was
self employed - i was available for her 24/7
my wife -self employed
we lived next door
my dead beat sister died 10 years ago and was disinherited , i was POA and everything , she had a irrevocable trust
i always told her for years i would take care of her no matter what , because nursing homes and all that jazz will suck you broke quick . plus i did not trust anyone
i know my post does not have anything to so with your situation just giving a different outlook on it . if dealing with siblings and they him haw around like
someone said tell her to over see your mom's care . i dont have an answer but i am praying for you and family, ive been there , my wife just went thru
same thing her mom had dementia and lives in PA , she recently passed away my wife has 2 brothers and a sister , her sister took their mom in and used the money
from their moms money to take of her as we are 500 miles away . the 2 brothers never came to see there mom and were dead beats . so as in my case it was easier , my wife case alittle easy . her mom and dads farm and house and land has been sold , the pizza shop with 8 apartments up stairs is still on market . now her sister is having trouble because their mom is gone and her kids have been adults and moved on long ago . her sister is going to a survivor meeting with other people weekly
sometimes there is only a gut check , no right or wrong . do what it tells you and i have been there twice in 2 and half years , you are in my prayers .
i know both our moms who were best friends and same age they did not want to linger , and thankfully they did suffer to much or to long .