I concur. Neither schools nor parents are doing much where discipline is concerned; then again, if they were to try they could be faced with potential issues for doing the right thing as well. It’s a vicious circle, damned if you do, damned if you don’t. A lot of kids have neither respect nor fear of authority figures; they have learned the adult will be the one punished if they so much direct a mean word in their direction in the form of discipline.
For the most part the “bullying” thing is ridiculous! Unless it involves physical bullying, which should definitely not be condoned and stopped; the rest is something that kids should be allowed to solve amongst themselves, it is how they gain mental and emotionally maturity. Nearly everyone has been the recipient of mean words at one time or another, or been bullied (verbally) by someone. It is how the world is, efforts are best directed at teaching children to deal with it, rather than to prevent all instances of it occurring, which is not humanly possible.
Now days everything is considered bullying. There will always be mean kids and mean adults, what happened to “stick and stone may break my bones but words can never hurt me”? I am aware some kids are more sensitive than others, but come on; most of what is called bullying today really isn’t, at least not in my definition. Perhaps I wasn’t a good parent when our kids would come home with “so and so said……”. The response was nearly always the same and along the lines of “suck it up, they’re just words. IGNORE them! They are trying to get a rise out of you, if they do, THEY win! Do you want them to win?”
What happens when these kids grow up? They can’t handle controversy and are incapable of just ignoring idiots trying to get a rise out of them. We are teaching children to hang on to every single word others say about them and to be emotionally affected. Why are we teaching them to care in lieu of doing exactly the opposite?
Nonetheless, parents are ultimately responsible for what their kids do/don’t do, legally and financially (my opinion). The school is responsible for teaching math, English and various other textbook subjects. Parents are responsible for teaching children manners, a sense of responsibility for their actions and for being, overall, a decent human being. Sometimes, in spite all efforts, parents may fail. Sometimes parents don’t even try at all. Either way, parents need to understand a child that can’t learn right from wrong is likely to suffer a lifetime of hardship.
Should parents be punished financially or with imprisonment if a child harms others in society? I don’t know, I guess it depends. How do you hold a parent responsible for a child that is a sociopath? Some people, including children, are just sick.